Long distance relationships are hard. And often partners miss the moment when feelings begin to fade irrevocably. How to understand what to do next? Is it worth trying to save the relationship, or is it easier to break up?
The main signs that a long-distance relationship has come to an end
Here are the key symptoms that a long-distance relationship has become obsolete:
- You perceive communication with a partner as a duty. Yes, you understand that in the evening you need to talk with the once loved one. But it doesn't give you pleasure anymore. You think about how to quickly end the conversation and go about your business.
- The partner does not get in touch at the promised time. This is where the complexity of long-distance relationships lies – especially when you live in different time zones. But it is very important to set aside time to communicate with a partner and keep your promises. If your partner doesn't, you'll feel like you're fighting for their attention.
- Your partner is trying to control you. The relationship lost trust. The second half wants to receive reports on where you are and what you are doing. This is a sign that jealousy has reached a critical point, and things will only get worse.
- The partner does not make efforts to solve the problems that have arisen in the relationship. Disagreements and conflicts take their course, and discontent and misunderstandings accumulate like a snowball. Think about it: are you ready to look for solutions to problems together, or do you not see the need for this?
- It is difficult for you to experience separation. Long distance relationships literally eat you up from the inside. You cannot concentrate on daily activities, you suffer greatly from a feeling of melancholy. Perhaps this format of relations is not for you.
- There is no question of joint plans for the future. You and your partner do not discuss what will happen next, do not set joint goals and do not make any efforts to achieve them. If there is no development, this indicates that the partner does not consider the relationship serious.
- You constantly think about what the relationship with another person would be like. If you had feelings for your current partner, these thoughts would not arise. You keep the person as an “alternate airfield” and prepare to “escape” at the first opportunity.
This suggests that the relationship has become obsolete, and it's time to move on – most likely, in different directions.
